Page 1 of 11 12345 ... LastLast
Results 1 to 25 of 255

Thread: Relationships

  1. #1
    Join Date
    Aug 2008
    Location
    New York
    Posts
    2,181

    Default Relationships

    People have different opinions/philosophies on relationships. Some like to take it slow before they do serious or intimate things together. Some like rushing into it right away. I, for one, think that people should wait at least 6 months before they should get real serious. I don't find rushing into things a good idea. Some just meet each other and already want to talking about their future like getting married, having kids, where to move to, etc... I find it really stupid. I believe you need to get to know the person and learn about them before thinking of all that. I believe marriage should happen at least a year after being together. So what are all your opinions about this?

    EDIT: I know some proposals after like 3 months of dating may work for some people but the majority end up in divorces. I know some last for like 25+ years so that's not bad either
    Last edited by STICKTOPIA; 8th August 2011 at 6:36 AM.
    Ash's team right now


    If you think the Sinnoh saga has been the best saga of the whole show, copy and paste this into your signature! (started by FlameRose)

    If you deny any sort of existence of Iris's hair, put this into your sig (started by 5ilVer)

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Jul 2011
    Location
    where do you think i live
    Posts
    127

    Default

    i wonder why noone post in this topic....it should just be gettin rid of a the rate it has been going....
    DRAGONITE
    Dream team:     Spoiler:- thanks:
        Spoiler:- thanks:
        Spoiler:- thanks:
    [IMG]http://i52.*******.com/rjmtxt.png[/IMG]    Spoiler:- click it..if you dare:

    (if you are some of the people who want a game where YOU get to choose YOUR own destiny and can make YOUR own decisions, then add this to YOUR signature)....started by me but you dont have to put my name down if you dont wanna

  3. #3
    Join Date
    May 2010
    Posts
    228

    Default

    I'll be honest, I usually rush into things a lot...it's hard for me to take it slow, tbh.
    ?

  4. #4
    Join Date
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Somewhere special
    Posts
    617

    Default

    I agree that no one should rush into relationships. Even still, most of the relationships you see with teens and early 20s are normally based on sex. I think in most cases, no one should get married until they've known their other half for a good year or more. Although in some countries, they have a high rate of arranged marriages and a low rate of divorces. Maybe arranged marriages can work?

    [IMG]http://i55.*******.com/24ni8gz.png[/IMG]
    Dracaena - Giovanni Rank

    0647 - 8370 - 0522

    OSL GYM LEADER # 8 - FLYING

  5. #5

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Ivanka View Post
    I agree that no one should rush into relationships. Even still, most of the relationships you see with teens and early 20s are normally based on sex. I think in most cases, no one should get married until they've known their other half for a good year or more. Although in some countries, they have a high rate of arranged marriages and a low rate of divorces. Maybe arranged marriages can work?
    Well when they are arranged marriges there aren't allowed to get divorced so yeah.
    Lovers gona love.

  6. #6
    Join Date
    Jun 2011
    Location
    Sol 3
    Posts
    490

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Ivanka View Post
    I agree that no one should rush into relationships. Even still, most of the relationships you see with teens and early 20s are normally based on sex. I think in most cases, no one should get married until they've known their other half for a good year or more. Although in some countries, they have a high rate of arranged marriages and a low rate of divorces. Maybe arranged marriages can work?
    It may be more out of fear of how the parents would react if they found out you divorced the one you arranged for them, as such things are usually based on money, power and social standing.
    Anyway, I think rushing into things and moving really quickly is something you see more in younger couples, particularly teens. I'm only 18, but I tend to think about this sort of thing a lot, and I've seen that's what I've done, so next time things will probably be slower, because I believe things will work better that way. Another "mistake" often seen in younger couples is that you devote a lot of your time to each other, and never leave time to do your own things by yourself or with your friends/family. Making a good relationship comes from experience I believe, doing things wrong and not doing them again - and even then it's different for everyone.

  7. #7
    Join Date
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Somewhere special
    Posts
    617

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Mevejuma View Post
    It may be more out of fear of how the parents would react if they found out you divorced the one you arranged for them, as such things are usually based on money, power and social standing.
    That's true. And it normally happens in the countries where women are still somewhat oppressed. So arranged marriages most likely are not the way to go.

    [IMG]http://i55.*******.com/24ni8gz.png[/IMG]
    Dracaena - Giovanni Rank

    0647 - 8370 - 0522

    OSL GYM LEADER # 8 - FLYING

  8. #8
    Join Date
    Jun 2011
    Location
    Sol 3
    Posts
    490

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Ivanka View Post
    That's true. And it normally happens in the countries where women are still somewhat oppressed. So arranged marriages most likely are not the way to go.
    Again, true. I also just thought, I believe that often these arranged marriages occur when the girl is still relatively young, so before she really knows any better, to a man who's quite a bit older. In this manner, the girl would grow up highly respecting the man, seeing as he's older, and not thinking any differently to her situation.

  9. #9
    Join Date
    Feb 2009
    Location
    An undiscovered region
    Posts
    76

    Default

    I go slowly, to be honest. Well, I went slowly before I met the love of my life, at least. Arranged marriage would have killed me, seriously, so I don't think that's the way to go.

    I also think government shouldn't say between what age and what age are people in a relationship wrong. Lately, 20 and 17 year olds can't be together, and I believe that's stupid.

    My partner is my English teacher. He's 28, and I'm 17, yet we are together ans rspect each other. I'm an emancipated minor, so they can't do anything about it, but why limit love's ages?
    Pokémon White 2 plan|


    SS: |

    Hunting:

    Egg count: 420

  10. #10
    Join Date
    Aug 2011
    Location
    New Jersey
    Posts
    41

    Default

    In all of my relationships, I tended to go slowly. Not only that, I also tend to date good friends. I feel that you should be able to be friends with the one you're with and at least have some sort of trust in them before you even decide to get into an actual relationship with them.

  11. #11
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Location
    Diamond Beach, NSW Australia
    Posts
    45

    Default

    I go slowly in my relationship =) I agree that people getting married and having kids after only being together for 6 months or so is stupid, it's barely enough time to get to know each other. The thing that makes me the angriest about relationships are those stupid people that have anniversaries EVERY MONTH! Girls who are like "OMG today is our 4 month anniversary, let's celebrate".......SHUT UP! Anniversaries are celebrated after a YEAR, no more and no less.....I hate it so much haha
    Black FC: 1377-7731-2864 White FC: 4470-0522-1919 In-game Name: ANGEL


  12. #12
    Join Date
    Apr 2005
    Location
    California
    Posts
    6,192

    Default

    I have a simple solution: I avoid relationships altogether :]

    By, seriously, if I were to have a relationship, I would probably take it slow. More often than not, I would get to acquaint myself with the person with no intention of going out, and we just end up bonding in a special sort of way and decide that we want to take our relationship to the next level. But, eh, I tend not to judge people on their relationship practices, I just focus on my own.

  13. #13
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Posts
    603

    Default

    Well, I've never been in a serious relationship before, so I can't say much, but I can say this.

    Whenever I like a guy, I think about for a month before choosing whether to ask him out or to forget about it. I don't want to rush into a relationship that in all reality I don't want to have.

    banner made by myself

  14. #14
    Join Date
    May 2010
    Location
    The Ocean
    Posts
    1,285

    Default

    Well Ive never been in a romantic relationship. However if I were Id probably procede cautiously and slowly rather than rushing into things.

  15. #15
    Join Date
    Aug 2009
    Location
    Adlehyde
    Posts
    46

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Mevejuma View Post
    Another "mistake" often seen in younger couples is that you devote a lot of your time to each other, and never leave time to do your own things by yourself or with your friends/family.
    So true! I even lost a best friend because our give/take aspect was extremely off balance. She'd spend so much time with her boyfriend that she didn't have a need for me anymore. :/

    On that note, I find it annoying how teen girls, especially on FB, say or "like" ridiculous things about how a boy should treat their girlfriend. Flowers? Letting them use their sweatshirts? Being understanding all the time? Give up their X-Box?

    And what do these girls do for their boyfriends? Huh? Diddly squat, that's what. Give and take should be 50/50 usually.

    Anyways, to be a little more on topic with what most people are posting, I find that even 1 year of dating and then marrying is a little bit rushed. But I suppose that it would be rushed for those who are both extremely busy with school, jobs, etc.
    P: TBS Episode 15 - Reunited
    Daisy: "Hi Misty! Like, we were wondering... Like, we're out of badges, so how do we get more?"
    Misty: "We get, like, 100 a month! How could you be out?!"
    Daisy: "I don't know! It's sooo weird!"
    *knock knock knock*
    Delivery guy: "Pizza delivery!"
    Daisy: "Oh, you're sooo nice! Here, take this badge!"
    Misty: "YOU CANNOT DO THAT!!!"

  16. #16
    Join Date
    Jul 2011
    Location
    U-17 Camp
    Posts
    472

    Default

    Currently when it comes to relationships, I let someone make the move on me. I kind of asked someone out once, but it was more less because both of us were too shy IMO to do anything. If/When we do get together, I go really slow.

    Concerning living with someone or furthering the relationship, you really get to know someone when you live with them. I find it easier to wait a while to live with someone and try it out. Then perhaps consider marriage. Rushing into marriage and having children to me is a big mistake. Both partners need to get a feel for one another outside of, say hanging out or dates. Everyone is different once you live with them.

    Arranged marriages make me kind of upset. It does typically occur within other countries in order for some form of financial or social gain between the two parties. The girls can be quite young. However, it happens in America, typically in cultures that have immigrated. My best friend, who is 18, was recently married to her husband in an arranged marriage. Her family was from Ukraine. They are quite happy together. I pity the poor girls in places such as India where it is possible for girls to be married off as young as 8 years old.

    It's best just to start out slow, and build the relationship up.

    [IMG]http://i43.*******.com/2gvkkd4.jpg[/IMG]
    snarky hipster tennis boys
    claimscreditstumblr
    fukubuchou

  17. #17
    Join Date
    Sep 2010
    Location
    Chicago
    Posts
    2,281

    Default

    It should be slow. I already know a pregnant girl, and shes 14, as well as the father. I believe they've known each other for 6 months. Thats rushing and rushing is bad especially if your younger than 18
    3DS Friendcode: 5198-2496-8383

  18. #18
    Join Date
    Jan 2011
    Location
    Temsik Park
    Posts
    5,374

    Default

    ^ Wow... That's my friend's sister's age, can't imagine her being pregnant...

    So yeah. If you're a teen, you shouldnt take it too fast. It might ruin your whole life - you won't be able to go to school, get a good job, hang out with your friends, etc. (Quote from my mum)

  19. #19
    Join Date
    Aug 2008
    Location
    Pittsburgh Pennsylvania
    Posts
    2,011

    Default

    Yea rushing things when it comes to relationships is BAAAAAAAAAD /goat. It takes years to really get to know someone. I've been with my g/f 6.5 years.

    A guy I went to high school with just got married to a 16 year old who just had a kid that isn't his. I forgot the age of the kid but but I do remember I figured that with pregnancy being 9 months my high school acquaintance would have either only been dating the girl at most 11 months or she got knocked up by someone else while dating him or they dated on and off which could put her at 14 while starting to date him. Either way that whole marriage likely destined to fail.

    Sure he may be matured enough (doesn't seem bright enough) and set in his ways but shes a 16 year old girl who is going to go through many more phases and personality changes. Being in highschool, a new mother and a new wife to someone who works long hours at the railroad and possibly will be away for extended periods (think hes a conductor) just doesn't seem too good of a situation to me. I wish them the best but I'm realistic.

    BTW I'm 23 and his birthday if I recall is a little before mine which makes him turning 24 rather soon. So a 16 year old and a 24 year old, how that didn't turn into a court case from the get-go I'll never know.
    Quote Originally Posted by Kutie Pie View Post
    About 97% of these women posing for pornographic pictures are held at gunpoint, and it can be anywhere. The majority of the time is by force.
    Lulz wat?

    SC: 5414 - 8627 - 7288 Platinum: 2621 - 8560 - 3249

  20. #20
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    Location
    Ankara, Turkey
    Posts
    558

    Default

    Girls are such heart-breakers, always ignoring the nice guys.
    [IMG]http://i28.*******.com/2hgad5k.jpg[/IMG]

  21. #21
    Join Date
    Apr 2011
    Location
    New Bark Town
    Posts
    3,005

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Kotone View Post
    Girls are such heart-breakers, always ignoring the nice guys.
    Nice guys finish FIRST!

    Bad Girls finish with an STD!
    Serves em right!

    ON TOPIC: I think Romance is best after one has done all the messing around and thoughtless "fun"
    Pokemon Journals
    Kanto Region:complete
    Johto Region:in progress

  22. #22
    Join Date
    Apr 2011
    Location
    Inna House... With Cable!!!
    Posts
    3,821

    Default

    I've covered the gambit of the OP topic. I have dated for 6 moths to a year before having sex, I had it on the first date, I've had one night stands.

    Each type of relationship has it's pluses and minuses.

    My ex wife and I dated 6-9 months, had a 3 month separation (during boot camp) and got married right after. That lasted 1 1/2 years before she cheated. I knew my wife all of 3 months before proposing and we have been married for 23 years (I though it was 25 but I was wrong).

    A relationship is what each person makes of it. The hot deep passion lasts a short time and then reality sets in and most people can't stand the mundane nature of a long term relation.

    Sex IS a big part of a solid relationship. It is the physical expression of ones love for another person. It is also the physical manifestation of hormonal drive. There is a great difference between the two. If it's love shared between two partners there is nothing more wonderful. Rutting like dogs is pretty awesome too, but doesn't even compare to the warmth and glow that is true loving.

    So the type of relationship should depend on the individuals involved. No matter what the relationship HONESTY is the most important thing.

    Quote Originally Posted by Nyter09
    Nice guys finish FIRST!
    Not always Nyter... But that's only because we take our time and try to please our partner more than our self

    So true!

  23. #23
    Join Date
    Aug 2011
    Posts
    6

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by STICKTOPIA View Post
    People have different opinions/philosophies on relationships. Some like to take it slow before they do serious or intimate things together. Some like rushing into it right away. I, for one, think that people should wait at least 6 months before they should get real serious. I don't find rushing into things a good idea. Some just meet each other and already want to talking about their future like getting married, having kids, where to move to, etc... I find it really stupid. I believe you need to get to know the person and learn about them before thinking of all that. I believe marriage should happen at least a year after being together. So what are all your opinions about this?

    EDIT: I know some proposals after like 3 months of dating may work for some people but the majority end up in divorces. I know some last for like 25+ years so that's not bad either
    You're somewhat right, there's a general success method to love. Become friends, get to know eachother, date, get married, have children, grow old together and die. It doesn't really materialize like that in reality, though. Personally, I get a little annoyed to see people look down on another persons relationship. Whether it's a middle aged person looking down on two teenagers scoffing "They don't know what love really is" or a person condemning a marriage simply because the people involved are young, or were pressured to marry because of unexpected pregnancy. Sure, relationships that are built on trust before lust last longer than ones that don't, but we don't know the hearts of other people. Do you know whether two people are really in love with eachother? No, you don't. Do you know whether a marriage will end up in divorce or not? No, you don't. In general, people should stop being so condescending towards another persons way of finding love.

    Rushing into things doesn't always end in disaster. I myself have had "one time flings" if you will, that did lead into more serious relationships that were fruitful and enriched my life. Is it the most tried and true way of forging a relationship? Not really, but it works sometimes. I've also know many other people that hooked up right away, and ended up having serious long term relationships after. It all depends on what you want. If you're looking for a long term relationship, don't seek it from people that are just looking for booty call.

  24. #24
    Join Date
    Mar 2011
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    367

    Default

    i don't plan to be in a relationship, ever. For these reasons:
    1. You can get your heart broken if he Breaks up with you.
    2. all he might want is sex.
    3. He could cheat on you.
    4. you could be in a Abusive Relationship.
    Yeah, i think i said all the cons to being in a relationship. and i must say this,most teen relaionships have to do with nothing but having sex, having sex with someone under 16 is statory rape (sorry if i spelled it wrong) it's against The law and you could go to Jail (or juvenile court)
    Last edited by SouthParkPikachu; 22nd August 2011 at 3:04 PM.
    Fan of Pokemon and South Park!

  25. #25
    Join Date
    Aug 2011
    Posts
    6

    Default

    Life has many risks, passing up things that can make it better simply because of the associated risks isn't a good way to live. It's a bland and mundane existence. Further more, many of the things you mentioned can be avoided by being prudent in how you go about a relationship. All he wants is sex? Don't date a person that's hooking up with someone new every day of the week. Don't want an abusive relationship? Don't date a person that just finished anger management classes. Or basically, get to know the person. It's not that hard.
    Last edited by Sugar Plum; 22nd August 2011 at 3:14 PM.

Page 1 of 11 12345 ... LastLast

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •