I'm so confused with life, right now. I'm 12 years old, but don't say I'm too young to be thinking about this. It's not easy to put in to words, so excuse me if it's hard to understand.
So, I've recently been thinking a lot about the future. Future job, future family, future house, everything. I'm scared to death, because I don't really know where I want to live, what job I want to do, or who I want to live with. I have plenty of time to think about all of this, but it's all I can think about. Every place I can think of living is not a place that I would like to live in and raise children in. Future job isn't as much of a worry, but I want to do something fun, that pays well, that allows me to spend time with my family. I want to be a good father, not an idiotic father like mine. Future partner, I can't stop thinking about this. I dislike almost every human being I've come across, and the chances of me finding someone decent makes me want to cry. I don't know what to do, and I know I have plenty of time to think about this, but I'm not sure if it'll be enough. I'm really scared of the future, right now.
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Well, it's really nice to see you thinking about your future life, but I would definitely suggest to enjoy your time as a child. You have 6 years left as one. You have to cherish that time. That does not mean to not think about your future though. You have plenty of time to think about this. But you need to go through this step-by-step. Start with the beginning/easiest things first.
I'm saying that it's not healthy to be thinking so far ahead of time, especially in terms of a future partner. Love will find you. You cannot find love. You're trying to get into thinking about something that you're not ready for. This also goes in regards to being a good future father. That's a lot to be thinking about and in this case, it's way too early to be thinking about yourself as a father. You don't even have a partner yet.
For your future house - What kind of environment do you like? How would your surroundings be in said environment? What kind of house would you want? What is your ideal environment? Look up some different countries/places on the internet that you'd like to visit, perhaps you'd like to live there.
Future job - What is your ideal job? What amount of money do you think is enough to get paid with? What do you find as 'fun'?
Just a few more things:
Considering you're 12 years old, and if you'd like to begin thinking about your future, I'd highly suggest to think about school. Everything that you want to do in school. Like, the classes you want to take and where you want to go to school.
And finally, I just have one more thing to say - Enjoy the little time you have as kid now, you only have 6 years left. Don't waste it, make the most out of it. After your 6 years are up, you'll be an adult. So cherish your time now as a kid. As some say - These are your Golden years.
If you have any other questions about this or anything else you'd like advice with, feel free to ask me. I'm more than happy to help~! ^_^
i agree with Gothic-Gothorita here. you are only a kid, stop worrying about adult things, they will most likely sort themselves out before you turn 20 (most people figure out a passion, a field they'd like to work, whether they want to travel, etc.). there's no use trying to plan your future at 12, because your interests and ideas will almost certainly change before you enter adulthood.
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@Moonrox: Also adding on to what moot said, you don't know how your future before your 20's is going to turn out. Once you get into your 20's things start to change and you begin to experience a lot of things. Vastly different than your years as a Child and Teen. Those 'things' can relate to really anything. Most of them, you'd least expect. Also when you turn 20 and after, you begin to meet and speak with a lot of people, like ones that are from different nationalities. And finally, you'll begin to learn WAY more than you've ever known in your 20's.
If you're going to ask why the "20's", then I'll just tell you right now, that in your 20's you have a lot of opportunity in your life to do something. For Example: In your 20's you may want to go to College to study for a specific subject and travel, or you may want to learn a sport and become a professional player. In your 20's there are many options you can choose from, which is overwhelming for a kid.
In summary, what moot and I are saying is that these are all adult things, and you're a kid. This is the time to be a kid and cherish this time as much as you can. ^_^
Last edited by White_Roar~; 4th February 2013 at 1:55 PM.
Agreed. I'm almost 21 and I'm still uncertain about my future.
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I'm nearly 21 myself, and all my course choices so far have left me not wanting to pursue that subject so far. I don't know what I want to do after University.
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I have a sort of middle-child syndrome. I'm fine with my sister, but my 8-year-old brother is ridiculous.
He beats me up all the time, (I'm 11) safe in the knowledge I'll get a guilty conscience if I fight back and therefore won't. He annoys me to the point of me just wanting to lock myself in my room and never come out and then says I'm the worst brother he could ever have and he would trade me for Justin Bieber in a heartbeat. Then at dinner he talks nonstop about soccer and how I should be better at sport and not rant so much about academics like him. 99% of the names he calls me would get me a permaban for listing them. I just wish I knew what to do. He denies everything I say to my parents and acts all innocent when I accuse him, so that's out. Help?
Just hit your brother when he taunts you. The slap seems to work fine for making someone stop talking, but doesn't hurt them. Breaking the nose is relatively easy and will result in a lot of bleeding, which makes a good warning. He won't taunt you again after experiencing that! There also is the put a piece of cloth in his mouth and bind him to a chair in the basement. But you might not have a basement. You can also try arsenic in his food if none of the above works.
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I'm not saying knock him out or anything, but letting him hit you and you not doing anything is clearly letting him think he won. It won't stop until you make it stop.
Then look up the one for your state (If U live in the US, NOT SURE WHAT OTHER COUNTRIES HAVE EM')
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EDIT: Oh, and if he doesn't stop until you give up, then under no circumstances are you to give up. The second you give up puts a thought in his mind that he's won and he just do that to you whenever he pleases.
Another thing I suggest is to learn to block his 'wild' attacks. Like you said, his 'punch' chipped your tooth. I really, really, suggest to learn to block or guard against his punches/wild attacks.
Last edited by White_Roar~; 13th February 2013 at 1:50 PM.
If your parents don't believe you, you should probably try and get them to catch him in the act or obtain some other form of proof. Though I would think they would take notice if he chipped your tooth, did he not get in trouble for that? (if not, you may want to talk to a school guidance counselor about it)
Beyond that I really do suggest trying to avoid/ignore him whenever possible if you aren't already.
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My parents have threatened to kick m out of the house for grabbing my little sisters arms when she comes after me because she is a minor. I really don't give a crap, if she is going to come after me then I am going to restrain her, it is that simple. If they want to fine me in court then so be it.
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