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    Does anyone here have any techniques for dealing with anxiety or depression?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ces View Post
    Does anyone here have any techniques for dealing with anxiety or depression?
    Face your fear! that's my advice. It worked for my friend and her weird phobia against puke :/
    Depression.. I don't know. Dealing with it myself too but.. No answer in sight, sorry
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ces View Post
    Does anyone here have any techniques for dealing with anxiety or depression?
    If you're feeling depressed then it's best to surround yourself with supportive people. Even if you don't feel like it, hang out with your friends. Stay busy, pick up a new hobby, go for a long walk when you have nothing better to do. The worst thing you can do when feeling depressed is to sit at home alone and wallow in your thoughts, that always makes it worse.

    If it starts to get really bad, you want to hurt yourself or start thinking suicidal thoughts, contact a friend or close family member and talk about it.



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    Thank you for the replies. I'm getting better, but there are still those days where I just want to lay in bed and do nothing. School starts tomorrow, so that will keep me occupied.

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    It happens to a lot of people, it's unfortunate, but true.

    School will definitely help you stay busy, and if you feel you're relapsing join a new club. I'm happiest when I'm the busiest. Just don't stay idle and you'll be fine.



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    Quote Originally Posted by FroTW View Post
    Well, Thusday she borrowed my calculator for like 5 minutes then gave it back with a message claiming that i was sexy, then she asked if i was a virgin cause i look like someone who is a freak in the bed
    Part of me wants to ask but it's rare that I'm alone with her (mostly cause my friends don't understand the term "cockblocking") and a good friend of mine was crazy about her last year, he claims to be over her but I don't know for sure
    Her calling you sexy and then asking you if you were a virgin and saying you look like a freak in the bed kind of gives me a feeling that she may like you. Asking her might be a good choice in your situation. It all depends on if she really likes the other guy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ces View Post
    Does anyone here have any techniques for dealing with anxiety or depression?
    If you can pinpoint the time when your anxiety/depression started, you could try and see if there was anything that played a part in causing it, and then attempt to avoid whatever that may be or find a solution to the problem.

    If that doesn't work, or there isn't a solid cause, all you can do is surround yourself with happy and uplifting people as much as possible. The more you're alone, the more your depression and anxiety will have time to develop and become worse.

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    Thanks again for the kind words. I'm actually starting a new school this year, because I felt I needed a fresh start. A lot of my old classmates weren't the kindest people in the world, but that's a whole different story.

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    Just going to express it all out.
    I need an outside view on this confession. So I just recently started getting back into the groove of school, I started back in August but it takes time for me to adjust. Sadly I'm the kid thats potentially smart enough to sleep through class but still pass with A-, so I fell asleep in Physics for the past week and I start having dreams. Started to become recurring dreams of like married life, fantasies of your dream girl. I then started to realize that my dream girl actually resembled someone I knew. I met this girl named Chloe back in June and agreed she was cute but added her on fb and occassionally talked and hung out as friends with her group. I never thought of her as more than a friend. After these dreams, I realized she mirrors my "dream girl". She even started saying, "Thats because we think alike, Kyle". But then a really old crush she had just go out of a relationship and was with us at a local fair intown. They were totally on another and my friend Layla knew she was gonna be a rebound for him since he just got out of a year relationship. They claimed to be leaving to grab Taco Bell, Tanner hinted how it was obvious and made the makeout signal and she flipped him off for telling everyone. I felt crushed. I mean I don't have her number, since we both go to different schools. I also don't wanna ruin the friendship we have but these feelings seem to be hard to hide since the old crush on him has reformed. She also hasn't been the luckiest in relationships, Total jerks dating her for maybe two weeks tops, although she did break up with one of my best friends. I've never been interested into a girl through this method, apparently the subconscious method. I'm just curious to outside opinions from reading this situation.

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    Wow haven't been here for a while. Here's the story:

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    Sorry for the really long story.

    I can't understand any of this. The whole relationship was based on being clingy and being there for each other when things got really bad. I don't understand how in such a short period of time she can lose her feelings for me. After all we went through, after everything that happened, I don't understand how someone that was so into me and I was so into could want to break up so quickly. I feel like she has me all wrong. I'm not clingy, I just want to be there for her. She gave up really quickly and I don't know what to do. I sort of convinced her to wait and see and take it slow but honestly it doesn't look good right now. For three months we had something really special that I can't believe she'd want to throw away in a week.

    I had made up my mind even before any of this that I was leaving college this weekend and going home because I just didn't like being so far away from home on my own. How can I convince her to talk to me in person and at least take it day by day and see where things go. I feel like this is a horrible mistake. Something like that just doesn't go away like that. She's always been really confused but now I just don't know. She still wants to be friends but how can we just be friends if we care about each other so much. I care so much about her and I just want her back.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Needs a Deoxys View Post
    Wow haven't been here for a while. Here's the story:

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    Sorry for the really long story.

    I can't understand any of this. The whole relationship was based on being clingy and being there for each other when things got really bad. I don't understand how in such a short period of time she can lose her feelings for me. After all we went through, after everything that happened, I don't understand how someone that was so into me and I was so into could want to break up so quickly. I feel like she has me all wrong. I'm not clingy, I just want to be there for her. She gave up really quickly and I don't know what to do. I sort of convinced her to wait and see and take it slow but honestly it doesn't look good right now. For three months we had something really special that I can't believe she'd want to throw away in a week.

    I had made up my mind even before any of this that I was leaving college this weekend and going home because I just didn't like being so far away from home on my own. How can I convince her to talk to me in person and at least take it day by day and see where things go. I feel like this is a horrible mistake. Something like that just doesn't go away like that. She's always been really confused but now I just don't know. She still wants to be friends but how can we just be friends if we care about each other so much. I care so much about her and I just want her back.
    A few thoughts on your matter bud. First distance even though you tell yourself nothing is wrong with takes a serious and I mean serious tolls on relationships and feelings. Secondly it sounds like to me that maybe she is having trouble and just didn't wanna tell you because like she said you do seem a tad bit clingy. Not saying you are but telling a girl you always wanna be there for her and that you wanna be there and all that all the time makes a girl think you are clingy. They like it in moderate amounts but not all the time. Thirdly it seems to me that even though you two were a happy couple you made much better friends and I know those feelings aren't easy to push aside but friends maybe what you two should be because you seem more like friends anyway. Lastly, She may have feelings for the new guy because unlike you he is right there. The power of being able to actually see someone and being able to hug them and kiss them is a major thing in feelings and without that relationships almost never work. This is all from a guy who two months ago went through almost the same thing you are but not exactly. Feel free to PM me if you wanna talk



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    I'll make it simple for you guys. I'm starting college in two weeks, and I think I'm set. I just have to pack everything up. For those of you in college now: is there anything that you would definitely suggest bringing or getting? Even if I may have already gotten it, I'd appreciate the suggestions. Thanks!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Manly Blissey View Post
    I'll make it simple for you guys. I'm starting college in two weeks, and I think I'm set. I just have to pack everything up. For those of you in college now: is there anything that you would definitely suggest bringing or getting? Even if I may have already gotten it, I'd appreciate the suggestions. Thanks!
    Def bring something to do. College life is great for hanging out but when your alone in your room you should have something to do. Also biggest advice I can give on what to bring is an open mind. Dorm life is awesome don't get me wrong but there are so many different types of people you can meet that if your a closed mind person you may find yourself making someone angry without meaning to



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    Quote Originally Posted by Nephos View Post
    Def bring something to do. College life is great for hanging out but when your alone in your room you should have something to do. Also biggest advice I can give on what to bring is an open mind. Dorm life is awesome don't get me wrong but there are so many different types of people you can meet that if your a closed mind person you may find yourself making someone angry without meaning to
    I definitely consider myself an outgoing an open-minded person. I'm going to Ohio State, which has roughly 65,000 students, so there is bound to be diversity. I'm actually really excited about this. I grew up in a small farm town of only 1,000 people, where there was virtually no diversity (we were all white). Last year, I moved to Columbus, Ohio, which is, of course, the capital and major city of Ohio. I was exposed to a new array of people and cultures. I initially had "culture shock," but I eventually got over this and began to appreciate my new environment.

    As far as having something to do, I'm not too worried about that. I'm running varsity cross country, which has already consumed a good chunk of my summer break. I also plan to join a few special interest clubs (there's a Pokémon club!) and organizations. I'm also going to join the 8th Floor Improv Comedy Group, a group that does comedy both at Ohio State and various places all over the U.S. I'll also being doing some screenwriting and stand-up comedy on the side. So yeah, I'll be busy.
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    Soeh.. I sent the guy a facebook message about my feelings. (Stupid idea much?)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Arceus94 View Post
    Soeh.. I sent the guy a facebook message about my feelings. (Stupid idea much?)
    No that's how my girlfriend I just broke up with did it to me. It worked out great...except now we're broken up
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    Quote Originally Posted by Manly Blissey View Post
    I'll make it simple for you guys. I'm starting college in two weeks, and I think I'm set. I just have to pack everything up. For those of you in college now: is there anything that you would definitely suggest bringing or getting? Even if I may have already gotten it, I'd appreciate the suggestions. Thanks!

    Best advice I was given on what to bring before going to college/university - take some teabags/coffee/hot chocolate and a few packets of biscuits. As soon as you move in, you can knock on the doors of everyone else and invite them for drinks and biscuits; an easy excuse to get to know everyone right away and settle in with those people who'll soon be no strangers.

    Then again, when people were giving me that advice, they were giving advice to a shy girl who was nervous about being uprooted from the few close friends she had. Maybe that'll be no concern for you anyway

    If you're in residence long-term, you may want to take a sleeping bag so that local friends can come visit, that's always good fun.

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    Well. I sent him a mail telling him I' in love with him xD
    he's in my class, and I'm a guy.
    can you see the problem? XD
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    Quote Originally Posted by Manly Blissey View Post
    I'll make it simple for you guys. I'm starting college in two weeks, and I think I'm set. I just have to pack everything up. For those of you in college now: is there anything that you would definitely suggest bringing or getting? Even if I may have already gotten it, I'd appreciate the suggestions. Thanks!
    Quote Originally Posted by Nephos View Post
    Also biggest advice I can give on what to bring is an open mind.
    This.

    I think one of the biggest mistakes I made my Freshman year was bringing too much stuff to my dorm. I rarely used a lot of it, and it made moving out the biggest pain in the ass imaginable.

    Quote Originally Posted by Manly Blissey View Post
    I'm going to Ohio State
    Great school. Congrats! As a fellow mid-westerner I suggest, based on my own error, to bring only the clothes that are going to be weather-appropriate until you know you'll be back at home. I stupidly brought my WHOLE wardrobe upon moving in and regretted it. Plus, winter clothing is the heaviest and would save you a lot of unnecessary boxes. Though, you probably were planning on doing this in the first place and realistically I was just really that dumb, so don't mind me if I'm just being redundant.

    You really don't need much in the dorms; in retrospect I feel I could have lived comfortably with just my laptop/electronics, clothing/shoes, school supplies, dishes/utensils, towels and hygienic items. I didn't have a mini-fridge and I was just fine, but I can imagine a lot of scenarios where that could have helped me.

    Quote Originally Posted by Manly Blissey View Post
    Last year, I moved to Columbus, Ohio, which is, of course, the capital and major city of Ohio. I was exposed to a new array of people and cultures. I initially had "culture shock," but I eventually got over this and began to appreciate my new environment.
    I'm jelly. My whole fam lives in Cincinnati and TBH I absolutely love Ohio.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Manly Blissey View Post
    I'll make it simple for you guys. I'm starting college in two weeks, and I think I'm set. I just have to pack everything up. For those of you in college now: is there anything that you would definitely suggest bringing or getting? Even if I may have already gotten it, I'd appreciate the suggestions. Thanks!
    Bring a basic tool kit. You can buy pre-assembled ones at most hardware stores, or make your own. Most students don't even think to bring something like this along considering dorms are already furnished and you have school maintenance people for most things/situations. But seriously, they're damn helpful even if you don't think you'll need it.

    Quote Originally Posted by ashhleeyy View Post
    I'm jelly. My whole fam lives in Cincinnati and TBH I absolutely love Ohio.
    Cincy is pretty different from the rest of Ohio, tbh. I quite enjoyed trips to 'nati, but I grew up in a less enjoyable part of the state.
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    There is a girl I like, and I met her two weeks ago on the internet, on an other forum. I've talked to her in a chat with some others, and we used web cams, so I know how she looks like. She's very cute in my opinion, and we exchanged our msn. The strange thing was that on msn, she's much more depressed, and she's wondering things like: "Why do I live?" and "What's the meaning of life?". So she concluded that her life didn't have any meaning, but she didn't commit suicide because she said that's to low. I'm not sure if she's serious, but I tried to convince her that you can give your life a meaning by yourself, but I didn't convince her. So she said that she wanted to talk about something else.

    Now I don't know if I should continue about it another time, since I don't like it at all that she has those thoughts, and I believe she isn't happy atm with those thoughts. Also, if I should continue about it, what do you think I should say to convince her? Also, saying that I'm in love with her (which I do I guess) isn't an option, I don't want to rush it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Spookz View Post
    Cincy is pretty different from the rest of Ohio, tbh. I quite enjoyed trips to 'nati, but I grew up in a less enjoyable part of the state.
    Haha, you're so right. That'd be like me saying "Wisconsin is a great state" when really it would mean "Madison and Milwaukee are cool cities to be in as long as it's summer."

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    Now I don't know if I should continue about it another time, since I don't like it at all that she has those thoughts, and I believe she isn't happy atm with those thoughts. Also, if I should continue about it, what do you think I should say to convince her? Also, saying that I'm in love with her (which I do I guess) isn't an option, I don't want to rush it.
    Just keep everything positive. I wouldn't do more than politely ask once or twice why she feels that way when she says something that doesn't sit right with you. Realistically, teenagers are generally dramatic like that and will say something without thinking of the effects to get attention. Even if one thinks "nah, I've got a pretty good head on my shoulders," it still wouldn't change the fact that everyone has done it once or twice at least. I'm definitely not attacking her by trying to pin her as an attention ***** but you really just have to talk to her about it and try to gauge her seriousness based off of that. The more you get to know her the better you'll be at deciphering her specific "female code" in language.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Assassin9399 View Post
    There is a girl I like, and I met her two weeks ago on the internet, on an other forum. I've talked to her in a chat with some others, and we used web cams, so I know how she looks like. She's very cute in my opinion, and we exchanged our msn. The strange thing was that on msn, she's much more depressed, and she's wondering things like: "Why do I live?" and "What's the meaning of life?". So she concluded that her life didn't have any meaning, but she didn't commit suicide because she said that's to low. I'm not sure if she's serious, but I tried to convince her that you can give your life a meaning by yourself, but I didn't convince her. So she said that she wanted to talk about something else.

    Now I don't know if I should continue about it another time, since I don't like it at all that she has those thoughts, and I believe she isn't happy atm with those thoughts. Also, if I should continue about it, what do you think I should say to convince her? Also, saying that I'm in love with her (which I do I guess) isn't an option, I don't want to rush it.
    Well, she may be going through a difficult time at the moment, often stress causes people to be depressed. She might of had a close family member die, or is being beaten up because of something. Her saying she won't commit suiside isn't deffinate, people can do strange things when put under pressure.

    Keeping her happy is the main thing, as you have said, you have already tried, but she didn't listen. Don't confront the matter directly, as she may think that you are exagerating the truth just so you can keep her safe. Try keeping conversations light, remind her of good things like, asking her if she has ever been on a rollercoaster, if she has, say, "Isn't the feeling great when you step off and you get a great rush!" This will remind her about good feelings. Of course, if she hasn't been on one, don't tell her how good it feels, as this may make her feel like she has missed out on life and how she 'hasn't even gone on a rollercoaster'. I know it's horrible to say, but has she/is on drugs? Because they can cause all sorts of feelings, if she is, be sure to support her and look out for her, of course this is quite rare, and I feel really bad about bringing up the subject.

    If you can, ask her what is wrong, don't let her give you a half answer like, "Nothing really.... I just don't understand life." There is probably a very good reason for why she is so down, gently keep on asking her and saying things like, "You can tell me, I promiss." or "I'm here for you, I want to help."
    Don't nag, or keep going on about it if it's obvious that she won't tell, but if she does, it's quite likely that it will be in a big gush to let out all her emotion.

    I can't really help with the love problem, I think your main concern is her well being. Don't you let her or yourself give up hope, life is a great gift, tell her that we must not throw it away. Please don't take all I've said to heart, I can't predict what she will do/ what she wants, I'm just trying to help! Good luck!
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    Ugh, school has started and already I am appauled by it. New teachers who do not know what we are supposed to do and can't tell the difference between a man speaking in english and italian, new year group running out of classrooms expecting break and trying to play tig and other playground games and every time I walk towards the school gates, I see people in the second youngest year passing a cigarette around each other in a circle shape and the people in my year drinking cans of largar while talking about plans to sneak into night clubs every friday night while they beg me to help them with their homework because they forgot and made no effort. The teachers all know this but do not give about it and when they do, they get a punch in the face and are forced to take it because they are not allowed to restrain or touch a student. The Buildings are being refurbished and the school computers are constantly being hacked into by other students, they can actually access other peoples documents through their phones and implant pictures of anything in them. The GCSE's that are achieved in the past two years have not been properly recorded and there are actual arguements between the students and teachers now. The school is near the main road so we always hear police sirens. There is no bullying or anything like that, sorta. People in the school greet each and either tease others and harass them to the point of them lashing out and doing the unpredictable or taking the anger out by harassing other people. It is strange how the students in the lowest year that have been held back the whole summer to catch up think that they can bully the people in my classes and people like me when we are doing amazing in our lessons and grades and have many friends. Is this just a cry of attention for help or is this just their last resort since their lives are now pretty much dead?
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    Quote Originally Posted by I-am-the-peel View Post
    Ugh, school has started and already I am appauled by it. New teachers who do not know what we are supposed to do and can't tell the difference between a man speaking in english and italian, new year group running out of classrooms expecting break and trying to play tig and other playground games and every time I walk towards the school gates, I see people in the second youngest year passing a cigarette around each other in a circle shape and the people in my year drinking cans of largar while talking about plans to sneak into night clubs every friday night while they beg me to help them with their homework because they forgot and made no effort. The teachers all know this but do not give about it and when they do, they get a punch in the face and are forced to take it because they are not allowed to restrain or touch a student. The Buildings are being refurbished and the school computers are constantly being hacked into by other students, they can actually access other peoples documents through their phones and implant pictures of anything in them. The GCSE's that are achieved in the past two years have not been properly recorded and there are actual arguements between the students and teachers now. The school is near the main road so we always hear police sirens. There is no bullying or anything like that, sorta. People in the school greet each and either tease others and harass them to the point of them lashing out and doing the unpredictable or taking the anger out by harassing other people. It is strange how the students in the lowest year that have been held back the whole summer to catch up think that they can bully the people in my classes and people like me when we are doing amazing in our lessons and grades and have many friends. Is this just a cry of attention for help or is this just their last resort since their lives are now pretty much dead?

    Sounds like a pretty tough school you're at there, but I'm not unfamiliar with a lot of those scenes. Most likely the students who seem to be prioritising their own worlds over their studies have a variety of reasons for choosing to do so; it could be anything from social anxiety and a need to fit in/peer pressure to simply not really having any interest in learning, and being bored by the classroom. But the best you can do is to leave them to make their own choices and focus on your own future. Many of them will probably eventually realise that education is a really big stepping stone into the rest of life and an opportunity that shouldn't be missed, and hopefully they'll realise it before it's too late.

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