Page 2 of 173 FirstFirst 1234561252102 ... LastLast
Results 26 to 50 of 4305

Thread: The Official Advice Thread

  1. #26
    Join Date
    Feb 2006
    Posts
    1,044

    Default

    He's a young dog in a new location and feeling scared and alone. That's why he stops crying when you take him out of the room, because he sees you and sees that he isn't alone or abandoned.

    Make sure that he gets plenty of exercise during the day and doesn't sleep in the late evenings so he's more tired when it's time for bed. Make sure that he is let out so he can do his business before settling down. If he's young, he might need to go out again during the night, and that's why he's crying. If that happens, let him out to do his business and then bring him right back to his room. You can also give him an old article of clothing that smells like you to sleep with.

    Though I should warn that constantly checking on him every time he cries during the night will lead to trouble. If he doesn't have to go outside and is just crying because he's scared or alone, you going to check on him rewards his crying, which you won't want to do.

    Hope this helps.

  2. #27
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Location
    Diamond Beach, NSW Australia
    Posts
    45

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Hanako Tabris View Post
    He's a young dog in a new location and feeling scared and alone. That's why he stops crying when you take him out of the room, because he sees you and sees that he isn't alone or abandoned.

    Make sure that he gets plenty of exercise during the day and doesn't sleep in the late evenings so he's more tired when it's time for bed. Make sure that he is let out so he can do his business before settling down. If he's young, he might need to go out again during the night, and that's why he's crying. If that happens, let him out to do his business and then bring him right back to his room. You can also give him an old article of clothing that smells like you to sleep with.

    Though I should warn that constantly checking on him every time he cries during the night will lead to trouble. If he doesn't have to go outside and is just crying because he's scared or alone, you going to check on him rewards his crying, which you won't want to do.

    Hope this helps.
    I have given him my old dressing gown to sleep with, but he still cries. I thought he was lonely because he used to have a sister puppy at night, but she got taken away and that's when he started not sleeping, but I've tried putting him to bed WITH me so he's not lonely and he just won't go to sleep. I've been letting him out to do his business, but he still doesn't wanna go back to sleep once he's done. He's soo cute, but it's driving me (and my family) crazy because he won't be quiet lol.
    Black FC: 1377-7731-2864 White FC: 4470-0522-1919 In-game Name: ANGEL


  3. #28
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Posts
    127

    Default

    Straight foward question from a straight foward guy:

    My friend just got dumped, pretty hard, and she can't sleep at night, is there something I can do to help? She saod that whenever she tries to sleep, she thinks of him and she ends up crying and pulling another "all-nighter".
    Last edited by dragontamer98; 28th August 2011 at 9:16 AM.
    ~~Insert Creative Sig Here~~

  4. #29
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Location
    Diamond Beach, NSW Australia
    Posts
    45

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by dragontamer98 View Post
    Straight foward question from a straight foward guy:

    My friend just got dumped, pretty hard, and she can't sleep at night, is there something I can do to help? She saod that whenever she tries to sleep, she thinks of him and she ends up crying and pulling another "all-nighter".
    I've actually been in a situation like this myself. I know it's not what you want to hear, but there's nothing you can do except try to keep her mind off it. Try to keep her happy and distracted especially around bed time. Maybe you could text or call her late at night and talk to her until she falls asleep? Other than keeping her mind off it, there's not alot you can do I'm afraid =(
    Black FC: 1377-7731-2864 White FC: 4470-0522-1919 In-game Name: ANGEL


  5. #30
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Chicago, IL
    Posts
    2,594

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by dragontamer98 View Post
    Straight foward question from a straight foward guy:

    My friend just got dumped, pretty hard, and she can't sleep at night, is there something I can do to help? She saod that whenever she tries to sleep, she thinks of him and she ends up crying and pulling another "all-nighter".
    I've had a few rough nights like this. Aside from the obvious sleeping pills there isn't much to do. Sometimes if I have trouble sleeping I have a hard drink like brandy, but I don't know if your friend is of legal age.

    Ang3l's suggestion is probably the best next thing, or reading before bed. I find my mind is less likely to wander onto unfriendly territory when I'm tired from reading, or after having a good, meaningful conversation with a friend. I often find that after opening up to someone else (or even writing in a journal) my mind is much more at ease.



  6. #31
    Join Date
    Apr 2011
    Location
    10 blocks above bedrock
    Posts
    786

    Default

    Two school aged kids that are two grades apart and dating/in a relationship: Okay or not okay?

  7. #32
    Join Date
    Aug 2011
    Location
    New Jersey
    Posts
    427

    Default

    ^ That's fine with me, i've seen people 6 years apart. As long as its not painfully obvious or the older person is completely "owning" the younger person it's fine. Though if it's by decade then I see something kind of creepy.

    Personality > Appearance, but at least look presentable is my advice to anything.
    S.T.A.R.S.
    Claimed Nemesis T-02 and Pokemon Gold

  8. #33
    Join Date
    Sep 2010
    Location
    Chicago
    Posts
    2,285

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by metagrody6 View Post
    Two school aged kids that are two grades apart and dating/in a relationship: Okay or not okay?
    If you think about it, dating 2 grades apart is pretty strangle. Example 6 grader dating a 4th grader.
    If theyre in high school or college its fine. Age difference doesnt matter much if theyre both adults, unless if its like 20+ years apart. [my parents are like 6 years apart]
    3DS Friendcode: 5198-2496-8383

  9. #34
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Posts
    127

    Default

    Thnx for the advice! ;3

    Quote Originally Posted by metagrody6 View Post
    Two school aged kids that are two grades apart and dating/in a relationship: Okay or not okay?
    I'd say theres no okay or not okay. If they really love each other, they wont care about the age difference or what other people say. Of course it might be ackward if they are elementary kids...
    ~~Insert Creative Sig Here~~

  10. #35
    Join Date
    Apr 2011
    Location
    10 blocks above bedrock
    Posts
    786

    Default

    Suppose they are in 7th and 9th grade.

  11. #36
    Join Date
    Oct 2006
    Location
    Posts
    1,125

    Default

    No that's horribly disgusting.

    My two best friends start dating after something happened while they were drunk together. Ends horribly. I'm stuck in the middle, what do? I brought them together that cursed night.

    Guy disliked girl before girl went straight to third base. Guy was ****ing infatuated with girl after that night, and girl just felt like dating. Guy wanted to lose virginity to girl, girl just wanted to date. Girl says hey you're too damn obsessed with me I don't want a relationship yo. Guy still wants relationship. They get drunk again and he starts feeling her up, she is angry. I have to take random guy to ER and bring guy friend with me, he tells me he thinks she's ****ing crazy and that he wasn't feeling her up.

    What to believe, oh what to believe.
    Last edited by Shuam; 29th August 2011 at 5:13 PM.

  12. #37
    Join Date
    Apr 2010
    Location
    michigan
    Posts
    684

    Default

    ^ Woah wild party man
    I say tell the dude what happened (if he didn't already know). Achohol does lots of strange things. I wouldn't take it seriously at all, just the stuff in his blood stream. Then ask both ofthem what they think WHILE SOBER. Then let them make the decision.

    formerly blastoiseboy19
    tumblr - twitter - spc

  13. #38
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Location
    Diamond Beach, NSW Australia
    Posts
    45

    Default

    A 9th grader dating a 7th grader isn't weird at all, it's only a 2 year difference. A 12th grader dating a 7th grader, now THAT'S a little strange, but still not entirely disgusting depending on the circumstances. If they're happy with each other then it's ok =)
    Black FC: 1377-7731-2864 White FC: 4470-0522-1919 In-game Name: ANGEL


  14. #39
    Join Date
    Jul 2011
    Location
    Omnipresent
    Posts
    283

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Ang3l View Post
    A 9th grader dating a 7th grader isn't weird at all, it's only a 2 year difference. A 12th grader dating a 7th grader, now THAT'S a little strange, but still not entirely disgusting depending on the circumstances. If they're happy with each other then it's ok =)
    Are you kidding!? A 12th grader is ~18 years old, a 7th grader is ~12-13. That is NOT okay.

  15. #40
    Join Date
    Sep 2008
    Location
    Toronto
    Posts
    333

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by metagrody6 View Post
    Two school aged kids that are two grades apart and dating/in a relationship: Okay or not okay?
    Half the elder's age + 7.

    Of course, this equation doesn't allow for relationships between people under the age of 14. Perhaps that was by design.

    Ash/Red likes brunettes. In ALL universes. Supporter of Luckyshipping and Advanceshipping.

        Spoiler:- Claims:

  16. #41
    Join Date
    Oct 2006
    Location
    Posts
    1,125

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Blastoiseboy19 View Post
    ^ Woah wild party man
    I say tell the dude what happened (if he didn't already know). Achohol does lots of strange things. I wouldn't take it seriously at all, just the stuff in his blood stream. Then ask both ofthem what they think WHILE SOBER. Then let them make the decision.
    Oh they were "dating" if you'd like to call it that for about 3 weeks. It was mainly just texting nonstop on his part, and eyah. She said she had a little kindergarten crush on him, and he wanted to lose his virginity to her. She didn't want it. He still wanted her when she said nah man it's over. They went to the same party again, he got drunk, she got drunk, he started feeling her up, she was mad about that and told him to stop.

  17. #42
    Join Date
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Somewhere special
    Posts
    620

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by metagrody6 View Post
    Two school aged kids that are two grades apart and dating/in a relationship: Okay or not okay?
    So 2 years apart age wise. That doesn't sound bad at all lol. Only if they're really young should they not be in relationships, but the age gap is hardly unacceptable.

    [IMG]http://i55.*******.com/24ni8gz.png[/IMG]
    Dracaena - Giovanni Rank

    0647 - 8370 - 0522

    OSL GYM LEADER # 8 - FLYING

  18. #43
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Location
    Diamond Beach, NSW Australia
    Posts
    45

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Doodles View Post
    Are you kidding!? A 12th grader is ~18 years old, a 7th grader is ~12-13. That is NOT okay.
    I was only 16 in year 12, I forgot that I was younger than everyone else haha. Sorry about that, you're right that is a big gap, definitely not one I would feel comfortable with. I was thinking more along the lines of a 16 year old with a 13 year old still squeezing into the acceptable category (just)
    Black FC: 1377-7731-2864 White FC: 4470-0522-1919 In-game Name: ANGEL


  19. #44
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Location
    The Underworld
    Posts
    699

    Default

    Soooh.. I kinda love this guy.. in my class. he doesn't know, nothing wil happen and I can't get over him.
    I can't go to anyone I know, because they don't know i'm.. "on the oposite team"
    Love is new to me, and I h8 it. It is distracting and useless, but I still can't help it.
    I feel butterflies whenever he talks to me, and I always have to turn away in a retarded manner (Like in movies) or else, I'll blush like an idiot.
    I know very well nothing will ever happen with us, but I can't give up on him, even though I've tried. Soooeh.. Any advice? anyone?
    I tried to forget you
    I tried to love you
    But I hurt you all the time
    I cant't forget you
    I'm afraid to touch you
    And I always see you cry

    Erkennst Du mich denn nicht?
    Bin ich dir unbekannt?

  20. #45
    Join Date
    Mar 2011
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    368

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Shuam View Post
    No that's horribly disgusting.

    My two best friends start dating after something happened while they were drunk together. Ends horribly. I'm stuck in the middle, what do? I brought them together that cursed night.

    Guy disliked girl before girl went straight to third base. Guy was ****ing infatuated with girl after that night, and girl just felt like dating. Guy wanted to lose virginity to girl, girl just wanted to date. Girl says hey you're too damn obsessed with me I don't want a relationship yo. Guy still wants relationship. They get drunk again and he starts feeling her up, she is angry. I have to take random guy to ER and bring guy friend with me, he tells me he thinks she's ****ing crazy and that he wasn't feeling her up.

    What to believe, oh what to believe.
    That's kinda disturbing in my eyes, how old was she if you even know her age? did she look 18 or did she look under 16? if she was under 16 then that guy did something illegal. :O
    Fan of Pokemon and South Park!

  21. #46
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Chicago, IL
    Posts
    2,594

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Shuam View Post
    Oh they were "dating" if you'd like to call it that for about 3 weeks. It was mainly just texting nonstop on his part, and eyah. She said she had a little kindergarten crush on him, and he wanted to lose his virginity to her. She didn't want it. He still wanted her when she said nah man it's over. They went to the same party again, he got drunk, she got drunk, he started feeling her up, she was mad about that and told him to stop.
    Sounds like they need to sit down, sober, and just have an honest talk. Obviously there are a lot more details you could go into but left out for the sake of brevity, but it sounds like he's not really listening to what she's telling him or maybe she's not saying it clearly. It doesn't sound like it's one person's fault more-so than the others, but they are both suffering from miscommunications. Love (or similar) can make you blind, but it seems like he might be in denial, and honestly, he needs to realize what's going on (or not, in this case), deal with the heart break and move on.

    It sucks, I've been in a similar situation to his, but that's the way the cookie crumbles.
    Last edited by Spookz; 1st September 2011 at 3:43 PM.



  22. #47
    Join Date
    May 2010
    Posts
    227

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Shuam View Post
    No that's horribly disgusting.

    My two best friends start dating after something happened while they were drunk together. Ends horribly. I'm stuck in the middle, what do? I brought them together that cursed night.

    Guy disliked girl before girl went straight to third base. Guy was ****ing infatuated with girl after that night, and girl just felt like dating. Guy wanted to lose virginity to girl, girl just wanted to date. Girl says hey you're too damn obsessed with me I don't want a relationship yo. Guy still wants relationship. They get drunk again and he starts feeling her up, she is angry. I have to take random guy to ER and bring guy friend with me, he tells me he thinks she's ****ing crazy and that he wasn't feeling her up.

    What to believe, oh what to believe.
    Wow...that's wild.
    Really wild.

    Yeah, just make them talk about it when they're both sober. Believe me, alcohol really f*cks you up sometimes.

    ...I was gonna say something else, but I can't remember it...all I remember is that I've had a 3-month period of writer's block. It's just hell.
    ?

  23. #48
    Join Date
    Jul 2007
    Location
    Wherever my other half is
    Posts
    31

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Arceus94 View Post
    Soooh.. I kinda love this guy.. in my class. he doesn't know, nothing wil happen and I can't get over him.
    I can't go to anyone I know, because they don't know i'm.. "on the oposite team"
    Love is new to me, and I h8 it. It is distracting and useless, but I still can't help it.
    I feel butterflies whenever he talks to me, and I always have to turn away in a retarded manner (Like in movies) or else, I'll blush like an idiot.
    I know very well nothing will ever happen with us, but I can't give up on him, even though I've tried. Soooeh.. Any advice? anyone?
    If you don't plan on telling him how you feel, then you might as well try to move on. You'll just make yourself miserable pining over him... =/

    You can try to find a hobby that you can distract yourself with. That's what I've done in the past when dealing with bad breakups, anyway.
    My 3DS FC is 0259-0648-6797
    My Friend Safari Type is Bug and it gives Ledyba, Beautifly and Pinsir.
    Pm me if you add me!
    Breeding Protean Froakies for trade. Got ones with 3, 4 and 5 Perfect IVs. PM with offers.
    I claim Mew!
    My first X/Y shiny!

  24. #49
    Join Date
    Oct 2006
    Location
    Posts
    1,125

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by SouthParkPikachu View Post
    That's kinda disturbing in my eyes, how old was she if you even know her age? did she look 18 or did she look under 16? if she was under 16 then that guy did something illegal. :O
    She's my best friend. She's older than me.

    Quote Originally Posted by Spookz View Post
    Sounds like they need to sit down, sober, and just have an honest talk. Obviously there are a lot more details you could go into but left out for the sake of brevity, but it sounds like he's not really listening to what she's telling him or maybe she's not saying it clearly. It doesn't sound like it's one person's fault more-so than the others, but they are both suffering from miscommunications. Love (or similar) can make you blind, but it seems like he might be in denial, and honestly, he needs to realize what's going on (or not, in this case), deal with the heart break and move on.

    It sucks, I've been in a similar situation to his, but that's the way the cookie crumbles.
    Yeah, I was talking with her about it and told her to talk to him so she had a talk with him with him basically just nodding his head and saying uh huh uh huh and that's all that basically went down. I was going to lunch with him then she called me and wanted to know if I wanted to go to lunch and I said yeah so I kind of brought them together like right after their little talk which according to both sides went "ok". Then later I heard him talking **** about her to his friend because we were all at the spa, partaking in different conversations due to the amount of people.

    SOO I don't know, I guess he's just gonna dislike her being around from now on, but kind of has to deal with it because myself and her are best friends and me and him are best friends.

  25. #50
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Chicago, IL
    Posts
    2,594

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by MandyK1015 View Post
    Oh okay! Sorry I'm new on here. And idk this one seemed kinda dead
    Not everyone needs advice all the time. It'll pick up, it's far from dead.

    Quote Originally Posted by Shuam View Post
    SOO I don't know, I guess he's just gonna dislike her being around from now on, but kind of has to deal with it because myself and her are best friends and me and him are best friends.
    That's the unfortunate result in these sort of situations. :/ I don't blame him for being upset around her though, I think given some time things will calm down. Obviously things won't return to how they were before, but if the two of them value your friendship (which it sounds like they do) they'll be perfectly civil with one another. Who knows, if enough time passes they may get over it completely.



Page 2 of 173 FirstFirst 1234561252102 ... LastLast

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •