Any tips for polite rejections? Im a kind of person who hates to be mean.
Be blunt. If not, you'll just irritate the other person by not being clear enough. I believed this was mentioned back a few pages ago.
The person you're saying to is going to be very distraught from hearing this, so even a hug may be a good idea. As long as you say the right things and not do anything that may make them feel worse, they should understand and not be mad or anything about the rejection, just sad and heartbroken.
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hey guys, its me again. I decided not to go for that girl, but for another girl that actually likes me. we have sweet talks on FB etc. and she and her ex broke up 4 days ago (i didnt do a thing). am I doing this right? and should I do this cause I mean, shes in south eastern ontario and im in northern saskachewan
Because of the distance however, I would really stop and think about whether you both feel you can make the relationship work and whether you like each that much to make it a full relationship some day.
I quite agree with what G50 has said. What I'd like to add is that you should think carefully before you approach this girl further. It's only been four days since she broke up with her ex and she's already sweet talking with you? You should hope mediocre relationships aren't a common occurrence with the girl.
Be careful, you don't seem to know why this girl got out of her other relationship. There might be something really bad about her. Be vigilant!
Also, it's never a good idea to date someone until you are completely sure that they are over their ex. Four days is not long enough for her to be over him, and it's possible that she may be sweet-talking you because she needs someone to rebound on.
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OK, I'm finally asking the Advice thread for help for my own romantic situation...
There's this girl at my college I've been co-workers/good friends with for a few years. We do hang out after work with other people, usually lunch/dinner, and I've had classes with her too. I've also taken her to a dance (technically as a friend), but have never been on an "official" date with her. I've had a bit of a crush on her for a long time, but a few months ago I've decided to pursue her. If I trust my brain (which I'm not really sure since obviously my brain's in a knot about her) I've also picked up signs that she likes me (although I can also provide doubts of course), and there's been a bit of tension between us. I don't consider myself properly friend-zoned because we're co-workers, but at the same time I need her to say yes (or at least let's stay good friends), otherwise it would be weird between us at work.
So I'm going to tell her how I feel about her. Ideally, after lunch sometime in the next week or so when I can talk to her privately (note I'm doing in in person ). My problem is, I'm trying to figure out what to tell her (yeah, lame, I'd think I got it but can't really think clearly about this). Should I say "I like you," "I have feelings for you," or something else along those lines? Go in a mini-rant about why I like her? Keep in mind I'm trying to walk a delicate line between going out with her (on an "official" date) and not freaking her out.
TL;DR: Trying to tell a good friends I like them, trying to figure out how.
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