I can't comprehend why anyone would want to make such a huge commitment so early in their lives. Marriage before 34 is clearly a trap, like seriously.
But what isn't these days?
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I can't comprehend why anyone would want to make such a huge commitment so early in their lives. Marriage before 34 is clearly a trap, like seriously.
But what isn't these days?
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I don't really understand why people think getting married in your early 20s is throwing away your life. I think it really depends on the people involved. If you're someone who wants to do nothing but party and be crazy in your youth and you feel like you'd be "tied down" in marriage, don't get married. But if you're someone who has no interest in that and you've found the person you want to spend your life with, want to settle down and act like an adult, I don't see the problem with getting married. It's not throwing your life away if you're living how you want to live.
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I'd simply point to the higher divorce rates for those who get married prior to 25. People and opinions change.
From a selfish POV, there are simply things I want to try and things I want to do on my own.
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Unfortunate choice of words there. Whether or not someone chooses to settle down with someone has nothing to do with supposed maturity.
It's also worth mentioning that being in a serious relationship and having an active social life aren't mutually exclusive, you can have both.
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I was in one as well in fifth grade where I failed on the word "Blizzard." It's pretty cool seeing these kids spell words that I had no idea existed. I suppose that knowing the etymology helps quite a bit but to see them get all of these words at such a young age is pretty crazy.
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I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to do and try things on your own.
I personally don't like to do things on my own, and the idea of going places and doing things with my significant other sounds more enjoyable to me than doing any of those things alone. I also can't wait to get married and start a family, but those are also the main things I want to do with my life and I'm really mostly waiting to finish school and start my career so I can get to those things. But wanting those things so soon is probably kind of uncommon in this age group. At least from an I-want-to-settle-down-and-have-a-family-already standpoint. I know too many people who are married and/or have children but weren't really committed to the idea of settling down and focusing on their family.
That was probably badly worded...
I apologize if it seemed like that's what I meant. Of course someone can be in a serious relationship and still go out and have fun. I meant it more from a family standpoint. When you have a family, going out and getting drunk on the weekends should not be your top priority and, unfortunately, I see that kind of thing a lot in the age group in question. Of course you can have a family and still have fun with your friends and your significant other. However, it seems to me (at least in my area) that there are a lot of people who are too invested in their party lifestyle to take care of a family. I do think, though, that a certain amount of maturity is needed in order to to settle down with someone. I didn't mean for it to sound like only mature people get married or something like that.
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I think it's funny that people are talking about having babies at 19 being so young, when I know five people personally who have gotten pregnant between 13-16, and know of a bunch of others.
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Alot of people I know are having babies. Around my age too.
Lots of them are getting married and so forth.
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Pretty much everyone I've graduated with save for about 100 people have kids, my class had about 290 students.
People wouldn't stop posting baby pics on Facebook like having a baby at 15 is some achievement.
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Were they planned, though?
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Sogeking and I tbf have kind of an inherent bias. He's seen the consequences of getting pregnant and/or married too soon firsthand, being someone who was born into that kind of situation, and I grew up in a cultural context where getting married or having children before the late 20s at the very least is rather taboo. It's a large part of what informs our decisions.
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maneater
There is absolutely nothing wrong with waiting. As with any major decision, it's a personal choice. People should marry when they're ready for it. For some people, that's sooner and for others it's later.
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my parents had me at like 19 and got married half a year later :/
they're not divorced.
i think if you're ready, go ahead. if not, don't.
not that hard.
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There's no right or wrong age to have children. There is, however, a wrong way to have them. If you can't barely support yourself and your boyfriend is either not working or just generally doesn't give a ****, you're probably better of waiting until you're both mature enough to have children. That said, some people never fully mature at all, so..
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Sogeking and I have a friend who unexpectedly had a kid at 19. He's a great dad, but the mom is not so much, and it's really been a tough road. It's def. not the life I would choose.
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