If you're picky about something that would actually make a big difference in making you happy, that's one thing.
But if it's something that doesn't make a huge difference or pay huge dividends, it can be a distraction.
How do you distinguish this? It's not really that hard. Imagine all the perfect qualities except that one or two things. How much less happier are you really?
You also have to think about it statistically. What are the chances people have ALL the qualities you want? Every single one? The chances that relationship lasts?
There are a lot of things people give up or stop caring about subconsciously too.
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What I guess I'm trying to say is that only that person will really without a doubt know themselves if what they think is picky and what isn't. As this thread shows, the variety in opinion is too great to be able to label one definition of what is "picky". Each person's cares, wants, morals and everything they think and feel is different, so no one can really distinguish what is important for someone and what isn't. That's why I say it's not a bad thing, the more detailed you are in your desires, doesn't mean your a prude or anything along those lines, but that if your detailed, you just have more insight to what you want in someone. Some people fully describe what they want in a sentence, others don't scratch the surface in 2 paragraphs. If that person thinks its worth mentioning, then it must be important enough or why say anything?
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You also have to take into consideration that this is "What attracts you..." not "Describe your perfect mate." You can find a particular trait attractive, but that doesn't mean that you won't date someone who doesn't have that trait.
All of you are gonna think I'm weird but I'm attracted to a girls voice, she can be the prettiest girl in the world but if I don't like her voice it ain't gonna work out. Also, I like big butts and I cannot lie.... and red heads.
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Wellllll.... I was speaking about pickiness in general. I just conjured a situation where it could potentially hinder a person.
And when I mention statistics, I was mostly thinking in terms of your chances of finding someone; not your chances of liking someone. Like, if you aren't exactly a top market getter yourself, it's not crazy to think that it's going to take more time for you on average depending on the qualities you find attractive. For example, you'd expect an athletic man to find an athletic girl a lot more frequently than an obese man who desires an athletic girl. I'm not saying this is some common scenario, but there is a such thing as supply and demand in the dating world.
Personally, I think y'all think about this way too much.
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I have to say something about loving voices/accents. My boyfriend's voice makes my heart melt.. kind of corny.. but it's not too soft, but not too deep. It's just so calm and he has a slight southern accent.. but not over the top southern. I love it.
Sorry, had to add that to the topic. :3 Voices and accents can be quite attractive, in his case at least.
I think I've posted in this thread before, but it was years ago and I haven't been on here awhile.
And there's nothing wrong with liking the Joker, one of my friends is also attracted to crazy, murderous video game/comic villians.
As for what I look for in a guy...Well I like nerdiness and maturity. Someone who can go along with my silliness or at least be amused by it. Every guy I've been attracted to has been pretty much an introvert, or at least one of the more quieter types. I'd like to have similar interests too, I need more people I can nerd-out with...But most of all someone who loves and cares about me.
For looks, the last/only two guys I dated have been very skinny and have long hair. I have this thing for long hair on guys...Though the last guy I liked had average-length ginger hair and now I find red-heads pretty...As for weight and appearance I don't care as long as they aren't morbidly obese or don't take care of their body, like not bathing regularly...I also like it if they have pretty eyes and long legs...I love legs...
A girl who's ticklish (Because tickling a girl is just cute.) And has a sense of humor and a relatively up beat girl.
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I really love pretty eyes. It's the first thing I notice about a person... Saw someone with heterochromia (different colored eyes) today, oh my goshhhhh~ Next, I don't like a guy with long hair, and I don't like a girl with short hair... Except maybe Ellen, she pulls that off. I really like when people are overdressed, and I hate extra-casual clothing like when guys wear tank tops. And maybe this is a bit too personal, but when girls wear fishnet tights on their hands/forearms and legs... Hottttttttttttt! (Does that make me into the goth look? I don't think so. >.>)