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    Default Cheating on your partner.. is it as wrong as people make it out to be

    I believe there was a debate on this before, but it's gone so I decided to make a fresh new one.

    I never really gave much thought on this topic before I got into a very loving relationship about a year ago. And thinking about the idea of cheating disgusts me and confuses me to no end.

    The question is
    WHY do people cheat when they're committed to loving that one special person they're with?

    Why do so many people think cheating is acceptable nowadays?


    I know many people aren't truly in love with their partner which I could probably understand why cheating would happen. But when you are TRULY in love with somebody, yet still manage to cheat and sleep with other men or woman? What is going through your head?

    I think my view is already clear but I can't say enough about how wrong I feel cheating is.
    My views on love and sex have became so strict ever since I've been with my guy. I would never even think of being with another man. Even if there's a bunch of guys who are considered attractive wanting to be with me, I'd never cause my boyfriend pain. Besides, being with this guy, I just don't find anybody else attractive. I just don't see it.

    Nowadays it seems like everyone will just get with any random person they find hot. And it just doesn't seem right at all.

    How can you possibly not think of the pain you're causing your partner when you cheat? I believe if you're going to want to sleep with every hot person you meet, then you should break off your relationship, because cheating isn't worth the pain.

    To end my post, I'll ask the main question.
    What are you views on cheating?

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    Yes, I think so. There's always better alternatives to rectify whichever issue you're having in a relationship, alternatives that are more decent and morally forthright.

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    Cheating is a terrible thing to do. I could almost understand if it was a one time thing when you were pissed off your head or something, but having an affair behind someone's back is appalling. If you want to go out and sleep with somebody else, then break off the relationship instead of hurting your partner like that. It would cause an awful lost less pain to break up with them than to have them catch you cheating.

    To answer your other questions, I guess people cheat because they're unhappy with monogamy, or just don't have the guts to break up with their partner or something. I dunno, really, can't really tell what someone else's mindset is. And from my experience, very few people find it acceptable, so.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mandi. View Post
    The question is
    WHY do people cheat when they're committed to loving that one special person they're with?
    There are a lot of answers to this question.

    1) Biological Aspect: There is no denying it, look at the animal world, it has been constructed in such a way that male animals "spread their seed" to just about any female mates in order to maintain continuity of their species. Now we can argue as many times about how Humans are better than animals, but the point still remains, we are a part of nature and nature controls the way in which populations are maintained. I'm not saying everyone is predisposed to it, but it helps in understanding the act to some degree.

    2) Sociological Aspect: People cheat usually to get the best of both worlds. What I mean (and it ties closely to biology) is that people stay with their partners because there's a sense of comfort in where they are. However, they cheat because something is lacking in that same relationship, and that lacking is something that they crave, it could be sex, money, anything. And it goes to say this "what the eyes don't see, the heart doesn't feel," the cheaters feel that if they're not seen they're justified.


    Quote Originally Posted by Mandi. View Post
    Why do so many people think cheating is acceptable nowadays?

    I know many people aren't truly in love with their partner which I could probably understand why cheating would happen. But when you are TRULY in love with somebody, yet still manage to cheat and sleep with other men or woman? What is going through your head?
    I think part of making it acceptable is that some Significant Others (be it male or female) exclude accountability in the relationship when faced with this matter. What I mean by that is, the Significant Other somehow won't 'punish' the cheater, thus giving them an endless cycle of slap on the wrists whilst not realizing that this person may never learn from their mistakes.

    Quote Originally Posted by Mandi. View Post
    To end my post, I'll ask the main question.
    What are you views on cheating?
    I don't condone of cheating as it implies to me that if a female (yes I'm a male) has done this act, then she already broke the covenant of trust and has the potential to do it again.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BurningWhiteKyurem View Post
    There are a lot of answers to this question.

    1) Biological Aspect: There is no denying it, look at the animal world, it has been constructed in such a way that male animals "spread their seed" to just about any female mates in order to maintain continuity of their species. Now we can argue as many times about how Humans are better than animals, but the point still remains, we are a part of nature and nature controls the way in which populations are maintained. I'm not saying everyone is predisposed to it, but it helps in understanding the act to some degree.
    I definitely wouldn't say humans are "better" than animals, but we do have a different set of values. I don't think that, when a man wants to cheat on his wife, the thought going through his head is "I want to have as many babies as I possibly can."

    That said, people are susceptible to temptation and biological urges. I think the phrase is "thinking with the wrong head". I don't think there's a clear, sweeping explanation for why people cheat. Every case is different based on the context. Maybe it's drunkeness. Maybe the person was seduced by somebody who has the hots for them. Maybe the flame vanished with the person's original partner. Maybe they want to hurt their partner. Maybe their partner is mean-spirited or abusive and this is their way to cope with it. Maybe they're just insensitive or impulsive. Or maybe they really did fall in love with this new person while still being in love with their original partner. While, as a whole, I don't condone cheating, I think it's something to be taken on a case-by-case basis.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Griff4815 View Post
    I definitely wouldn't say humans are "better" than animals, but we do have a different set of values. I don't think that, when a man wants to cheat on his wife, the thought going through his head is "I want to have as many babies as I possibly can."
    By saying that about humans and animals, I meant that people will immediately be repulsed to the idea of humans being capable of cheating and refute the statement by saying that they are not animals (By experience: they mean that they don't possess the potential to 'spread their seed'). In reality, they forget that humans also have biological urges as you've stated, and as such possess the potential to do so.

    If sex is on that person's mind when cheating, then it's similar to saying "let's have babies" from a biological standpoint. Obviously, not all men/women think in terms of sex when cheating.

    Quote Originally Posted by Griff4815 View Post
    That said, people are susceptible to temptation and biological urges. I think the phrase is "thinking with the wrong head". I don't think there's a clear, sweeping explanation for why people cheat. Every case is different based on the context. Maybe it's drunkeness. Maybe the person was seduced by somebody who has the hots for them. Maybe the flame vanished with the person's original partner. Maybe they want to hurt their partner. Maybe their partner is mean-spirited or abusive and this is their way to cope with it. Maybe they're just insensitive or impulsive. Or maybe they really did fall in love with this new person while still being in love with their original partner. While, as a whole, I don't condone cheating, I think it's something to be taken on a case-by-case basis.
    Definitely agree, it would be a mistake to label all cases as 1 sweeping cause for cheating, it depends on the context.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BurningWhiteKyurem View Post
    1) Biological Aspect: There is no denying it, look at the animal world, it has been constructed in such a way that male animals "spread their seed" to just about any female mates in order to maintain continuity of their species. Now we can argue as many times about how Humans are better than animals, but the point still remains, we are a part of nature and nature controls the way in which populations are maintained. I'm not saying everyone is predisposed to it, but it helps in understanding the act to some degree.
    That's fine if guys want to just live to spread their seed. By all means, do that. Sleep with random woman everyday. BUT don't be in a relationship, if that's all you're gonna want to do. I find cheating very selfish. It's as if people still want their partner, yet they are not happy with just them. That just reeks selfishness.
    Having the time of your life, sleeping with every girl or guy you meet, if you're into that, go ahead. But it's not worth severely hurting the person you say you love you too everyday.

    But yes the problem with cheating is that most people who are cheated on, almost ALWAYS somehow end up with the person who broke their heart again and again. They never learn, and the person who cheated will always do it again because they know they can get away with it.
    The people who will constantly get back with their cheating partner, I have no sympathy for. They're asking for it.

    But the idea of cheating on an innocent person who gives you all the love you need and really loves you for who you are is repulsive. How selfish can people be? Is love not enough these days?

    And to answer the above response. IMO I honestly don't believe you can truly be in love with more than one person. Love yes. But not IN love. Hell not even love, more like lust after another person. There's no love in that. They're two totally different things. If you've never been truly in love with someone, you wouldn't understand and you probably think I'm a sap. But it is true.. being in love with someone is nothing like just loving someone. You cannot give that much love or receive that much love from another person.

    And yeah, I understand why people may cheat to get back at them when your girlfriend/boyfriend are being a total ***** constantly. Myself though, could never cheat even if I was extremely pissed at my boyfriend. Because I know we'll always make up and be ok again. If I cheat, that would forever haunt me. When you love someone too much.. I just can't even think about the idea of even trying it. Fights happen. You and your partner are going to disagree. But it's temporary. Cheating is a permanent thing. You can never take that away.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BurningWhiteKyurem View Post
    1) Biological Aspect: There is no denying it, look at the animal world, it has been constructed in such a way that male animals "spread their seed" to just about any female mates in order to maintain continuity of their species. Now we can argue as many times about how Humans are better than animals, but the point still remains, we are a part of nature and nature controls the way in which populations are maintained. I'm not saying everyone is predisposed to it, but it helps in understanding the act to some degree.
    I'd just like to inform you that there are animals, numerous species in fact, that mate for life and only have one mate. Coyotes for example have only one mate.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The renegade View Post
    Ah, I forgot there was an english term for this. NTR does go a bit more in depth than that though, and can be decribed more as a feeling rather than a circumstance.
    Really? I don't anything about the subject aside from what I found from a quick Google search, so can you elaborate?

    Quote Originally Posted by The renegade View Post
    It usually still works within media anyways. One can still have that feeling of betrayal from a fictional story involving this concept. Once again though its usually only within japanese ero works, but regardless its still a prominent fetish in that respect.
    Huh, interesting. It sounds like the point and feelings that are associated with netorare are very different from those of cuckoldry when we talk about the fetishization of it. Mainly, from what I understand, because the thrill of literally having one's partner cheat on them is more about humiliation, whereas watching netorare is more about provoking jealousy. (Also, we do seem to be talking about having it happen in your life VS just watching/reading about it.)


    Quote Originally Posted by Gothitelle K View Post
    Which is why Cheaters makes me laugh everytime. XD

    But yeah, even in modern times, I've seen people, girls in particular, being overly controlling on who their partners could hang out with and be friends with. I mean, why should your partner stop being friends with a certain person because *YOU* don't like them?
    Eh, I've also seen plenty of guys do this, to the extent where "I don't want you being around friends of the opposite sex." I've also spoken to guys in a relationship who want to have sex with another girl, but would never want their female partner to have sex with another guy, so it's not just a girl thing. Either way, jealous types baffle me.


    Quote Originally Posted by BearTown View Post
    It is really rare that someone can love more than one person: and by that I don't mean it's right.
    Is it that rare to love more than one person at once? Have you never read a book or seen a movie or tv show or video game with a love triangle, where someone has to choose between two people they care deeply about? It's been a common theme throughout history because we're human. I'd say it's less that it's "not right" and more that it isn't fair to the objects of affection.

    Quote Originally Posted by BearTown View Post
    think about being in the other persons place. would u like to be "the other girl/guy?" would u like to share your partner with someone else? no. ppl r selfish.... Im a jealous person. Plus, it's dishonest (unless u openly say, hey I have another gf which I dont think ppl would do....), it shows ur level of character,
    Not everyone is jealous like you, so don't project your own feelings onto the rest of the world. There are people who have been and still are in perfectly happy polyamorous relationships. If you don't like the idea of polyamory, then don't get involved in it. A proper polyamorous relationship is honest, after all, and there is nothing wrong with people who are in one.


    Quote Originally Posted by BearTown View Post
    and in marital situations, destroys your family and basically gives your kids permission to go ahead and do it. seriously.... So it's not right.
    Uh, what? If anything, cheating hurts the kids, and therefore the kids will be less likely to do it because they have some understanding of the feeling of betrayal it results in.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Psychic View Post
    Uh, what? If anything, cheating hurts the kids, and therefore the kids will be less likely to do it because they have some understanding of the feeling of betrayal it results in.


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    yeah i mentioned my friend who has had both parents cheated on. he is so repulsed by that he didnt want to see the hunger games cuz katniss ended up with you know who (im not here to give spoilers)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Psychic View Post
    Really? I don't anything about the subject aside from what I found from a quick Google search, so can you elaborate?
    The feeling tends to be evoked outside of marital affairs, its hard to explain but ill give an example in a sec.

    Quote Originally Posted by Psychic View Post
    Huh, interesting. It sounds like the point and feelings that are associated with netorare are very different from those of cuckoldry when we talk about the fetishization of it. Mainly, from what I understand, because the thrill of literally having one's partner cheat on them is more about humiliation, whereas watching netorare is more about provoking jealousy. (Also, we do seem to be talking about having it happen in your life VS just watching/reading about it.)

    For the most part you hit the nail on the head.

    Heres a prime example regardless, long read but well worth the effort to understand the concept.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Psychic View Post
    Really? I don't anything about the subject aside from what I found from a quick Google search, so can you elaborate?



    Is it that rare to love more than one person at once? Have you never read a book or seen a movie or tv show or video game with a love triangle, where someone has to choose between two people they care deeply about? It's been a common theme throughout history because we're human. I'd say it's less that it's "not right" and more that it isn't fair to the objects of affection.




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    ok the books and movies thing: one person found it successful so other ppl blew it up and tried making money off it. Im sorry but thats what it seems like to me. and Im not saying that doesnt happen: but books and movies, thats fiction. sure, it encourages others to do the same and all that. and I don;t really count that as the same thing. I meant polygamy kind of thing. that is what ppl think is "love." the example of "love triangle" is more like "crush triangle" and makes a good story, but its not "love." love is a term that society has really killed. it's used as the same thing as "like" and I find that sad. I think real love would stop someone from cheating. the rest is lust or two ppl had a crush on each other and wanted to get married only to find they didn;t like each other much. there are other scenarios. but thats what I see most of the time. and true, not fair. But I see it as wrong as well as unfair. and even in those books and movies and such, at the end, they get married. they fall in love and the protagonist doesn't go back to the other guy (at the very end). cheating isn't a love triangle or a game. it's a lie. it's breaking a promise (at least in marriage) so yes I see it as wrong.

    and yes, cheating hurts the kids, I didn't say it didn't. I meant that they'll follow the cheaters example and go down that road and do it themselves.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ansem the wise View Post
    yeah i mentioned my friend who has had both parents cheated on. he is so repulsed by that he didnt want to see the hunger games cuz katniss ended up with you know who (im not here to give spoilers)
    You had me until the Hunger Games part. Katniss didn't actually cheat on anyone is any of the books, because she was never in a relationship with Gale in the first place. If they're not in a relationship, it's not cheating.

    Seriously, it's ridiculous how people try to shame Katniss over something she didn't do. :/ (Also, it's been long enough that we don't have to worry about spoilers.)


    Quote Originally Posted by Klizcool View Post
    I don't see cheating on your spouse as morally right. Even if you have permission (the movie Hall Pass), you're still violating the sacred vow that YOU made to that other person. Now, I'm not religious, but a promise is a promise, not matter who you make it to. Cheating is lying to your spous that you would remain ever faithful. Don't even dare point to biological needs either. You have a brain that can control your instincts. Use your brain.
    Just to clarify, a spouse is a husband or wife, so your post kind of leaves out anyone who isn't married. "Partner" is a more inclusive term and probably closer to what you had in mind.

    Either way, if you have permission to do it, it isn't cheating. Cheating means having sex with someone without your partner's consent. If you have their consent, it is no longer cheating. Not everyone makes a "sacred vow" to be monogamous, especially if they're unmarried.


    Quote Originally Posted by ???2 View Post
    Exactly! Everyone needs friends, that's mean people in a relationship too. Yeah your girlfriend/boyfriend is important, but so are close friends. It's up to you to find a healthy balance.
    It's less an issue of having friends outside the relationship, and more about jealous partners who don't want their partner to have friends outside the relationship. It's a symptom of a controlling relationship, and it's rarely healthy.


    Quote Originally Posted by The renegade View Post
    The feeling tends to be evoked outside of marital affairs, its hard to explain but ill give an example in a sec.

    For the most part you hit the nail on the head
    I'm still not 100% sure what the point is of reading such stories then - why would you read something that just makes you angry? But anyway, taking it to PM.


    Quote Originally Posted by BearTown View Post
    ok the books and movies thing: one person found it successful so other ppl blew it up and tried making money off it. Im sorry but thats what it seems like to me.
    Uh, this has been a trope in writing for hundreds of years. It's been a pervasive aspect of the human experience, much the same as recurring themes such as greed and revenge since the beginning of literature. That is why it's been a theme for this long - because people understand and relate to the idea of loving more than one person. And I'm not pulling this out of my butt; I've studied English literature for 5 years, and I've read some pretty damn old stories where this was a theme.

    If you don't believe me and want examples, the TV Tropes page has a few.


    Quote Originally Posted by BearTown View Post
    and Im not saying that doesnt happen: but books and movies, thats fiction. sure, it encourages others to do the same and all that. and I don;t really count that as the same thing.
    Have you ever heard the term "art emulates life"? When we create stories, we draw feelings and experiences and ideas from our own lives, because we understand them and audiences relate to them. There's a reason love and revenge have been in our stories in all cultures for hundreds of years, and it's because people have always related to those stories. Therefore, these tales of loving multiple people wouldn't have been in our cultural history all this time if we didn't somehow relate to them.


    Quote Originally Posted by BearTown View Post
    I meant polygamy kind of thing. that is what ppl think is "love." the example of "love triangle" is more like "crush triangle" and makes a good story, but its not "love."
    Excuse me, but how do you know what other people think and feel? Who made you an expert on the emotional capacities of others? Just because you can't love multiple people at once does not mean it's impossible for everyone.

    There are multiple types of love triangles, yes, but they are not limited to "crushes." Since you don't want to believe me, here is the TV tropes page with examples of the different types of love triangles, including but not limited to the one I mentioned, with examples. This page also has prime examples of the type of love triangle I am referring to, though it is a very specific trope with specific character archetypes.


    Quote Originally Posted by BearTown View Post
    love is a term that society has really killed. it's used as the same thing as "like" and I find that sad.
    I find it sad when people claim they understand the love every other person on earth ever has or ever will possibly feel in their lifetime.

    I get what you're trying to say, but you should also question why you think you can dictate what love is. I have my own opinions about love as well, and while I may be more inclined to look down on say teenagers who claim to be in "twoo wub," when it comes to mature and consenting adults, I acknowledge that they know what they're feeling and it's not my business.


    Quote Originally Posted by BearTown View Post
    I think real love would stop someone from cheating.
    I'm not really sure why "real love" (versus "fake love" or something?) would magically stop someone. You can be in love with someone, but still feel emotionally/physically unfulfilled at a given moment and make a stupid decision. I'm obviously not saying that's an excuse or that makes it okay, but I don't think "real love" is as magical as you imply.


    Quote Originally Posted by BearTown View Post
    the rest is lust or two ppl had a crush on each other and wanted to get married only to find they didn;t like each other much. there are other scenarios.
    Right, let's put it this way: you can be in love with more than one person in your lifetime. That's a fact. Whether or not things work out and you live "happily ever after" for the rest of your life is irrelevant - you can love someone intensely and deeply but still not spend the rest of your life with them for whatever reason. (Maybe things don't work out, maybe you're not allowed to see each other anymore, maybe they die, etc.) But you can still fall in love again, and love someone just as deeply and truly as you did the first person. It's not impossible - many widows find love again, for instance, and who are you to tell them that they didn't love their dead spouse as much as the new person equally? You must concede this.

    My point, therefore, is that if one can love multiple people equally in one's lifetime, what is to then stop them from being able to love multiple people simultaneously?


    Quote Originally Posted by BearTown View Post
    and even in those books and movies and such, at the end, they get married. they fall in love and the protagonist doesn't go back to the other guy (at the very end). cheating isn't a love triangle or a game. it's a lie. it's breaking a promise (at least in marriage) so yes I see it as wrong.
    Few points here, so let's take it one at a time.

    "And they got married and lived happily every after" - you're right, of course. In many stories, there has to be a final decision, because most people are not suited for polygamous relationships. But that does not by necessity mean that the hero loved that person exclusively all along. Sometimes that may be the case, sure, but in others they may really have loved both equally and just had to make a choice.

    We are currently talking about cheating and love triangles as two separate things, so let's please not get them confused. Nobody is saying "being in a love triangle gives you the right to cheat." Keep that in mind for the next point.

    What if you're not married or in a relationship with either person? This goes back to the Hunger Games issue - Katniss has feelings for both Gale and Peeta, and while she doesn't really say no to either of them for awhile, she is not actually in any kind of relationship with either of them in the first book, so she's not doing anything wrong if she kisses one or the other.


    Quote Originally Posted by BearTown View Post
    and yes, cheating hurts the kids, I didn't say it didn't. I meant that they'll follow the cheaters example and go down that road and do it themselves.
    But I'm saying that because the kids will know what it's like to feel hurt and betrayed by cheating, they're less likely to want to do it and thus hurt someone else. In fact, most children who experienced this were more likely to be less trustworthy, and that their views of love and relationships were generally hurt. I have seen some evidence supporting your idea, however.

    That said, a child should never have to know if a parents committed adultery. It is absolutely none of the child's business and should be worked out between the adults alone. There is no benefit to the child knowing what happened.


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    After being in a long-term relationship for a while people will find things tend to get dull and not exciting as they were. Having an affair usually creates a lot of excitement because you'r e constantly worried about being found out, its the thrill of it that attracts people, but yes it is wrong. I mean how many people have major trust issues and flawed perceptions just because an ex has cheated on them, there's absolutely no excuse. If you're not in love or are bored or whatever, finish the relationship so the other person at least knows where they stand.

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    Cheating is wrong but the cheater isn't the only one to blame and I think far too many people don't realize it. Partners don't cheat because they want to. They don't just get out of bed and say "I think I'm going to cheat on my girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife today!". I think there's not only something going on with them, but it's something that you are doing wrong as well. I think of it this way, my partner wouldn't cheat on me if I didn't do anything wrong...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gothitelle K View Post
    I think of it this way, my partner wouldn't cheat on me if I didn't do anything wrong...
    Um, what the hell? Yeah, they mightn't deliberately get out of bed with the decision to cheat, but it's not the other person's fault. If the cheater is unhappy with the relationship, he/she should break up with their partner instead of continuing an unhappy relationship. If your partner does something that makes you unhappy, communicate with them instead of going out and cheating on them.

    Unless they're abusive or something, in no way is it someone's fault if their partner cheats on them. I can't believe that you'd put going behind their back over just talking to them and discussing the problem.
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    What are you doing wrong? Not giving them enough sex?
    This is what I find extremely selfish.
    "Oh my lover doesn't want to have sex.. I'll just find some hot chick/guy on the street and get some pleasure. lol cause you know that's totally not wrong."
    or even "Oh this chick I met is so much hotter than my girlfriend. Even though I'm in love with her.. I still need a hotter chick to give me some love."

    Hell, if you're that horny but your partner isn't in the mood.. just jack off for both you guy's sakes.

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    Well if my partner did it to me, then you'd think that there's something I am not doing to make them happy right?

    I can't believe that you'd put going behind their back over just talking to them and discussing the problem.
    I... never said that. I never said go out and cheat...
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    ^ Nah, I'd think your guy is just an overly horny pig. Which he is if he cheats on you for making a mistake that he does too because you're both human.

    How hard is it to communicate with your partner? What you think cheating is going to solve your problems? You think cheating is going to make your partner appreciate you and respect you more?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mandi. View Post
    To end my post, I'll ask the main question.
    What are you views on cheating?
    Quote Originally Posted by Proverbs 6:27-29, 32-35
    Can a man take fire in his bosom And his clothes not be burned?
    Or can a man walk on hot coals And his feet not be scorched?
    So is the one who goes in to his neighbor's wife; Whoever touches her will not go unpunished.
    ...
    The one who commits adultery with a woman is lacking sense; He who would destroy himself does it.
    Wounds and disgrace he will find, And his reproach will not be blotted out.
    For jealousy enrages a man, And he will not spare in the day of vengeance.
    He will not accept any ransom, Nor will he be satisfied though you give many gifts.
    Quote Originally Posted by Mandi. View Post
    I know many people aren't truly in love with their partner which I could probably understand why cheating would happen. But when you are TRULY in love with somebody, yet still manage to cheat and sleep with other men or woman? What is going through your head?
    Cheating implies a repeated, hidden relationship(s) outside of the relationship you've sworn to keep solely between yourself and someone special. If someone cheats on someone they do not love that person. If you're truly in love with someone you're not going to cheat on them ever. Its just not going to happen. There could be some isolated incident where you don't take precautions and end up alone with someone who you happen to be mutually physically attracted to, and if you're an idiot and don't get out of there you might end up doing something you seriously regret. But you're not going to cheat on someone you love. If you do it repeatedly and secretly, you don't love them. You might have feelings for them, but its not love.

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    Matt, we actually agree on something. I'm quite shocked. o:
    Agree with everything you said.

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    It definitely is nice to agree every now and then isn't it.

    This is a pretty common sentiment.

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    I never had a girlfriend before. I wonder what that's like. Cheating is one of those things that I cannot even imagine myself doing, because of how horrible it is. If I my girlfriend ever cheats on me, I would murder her.
    We can all agree that the second generation was either Pokémon's Golden Age or its Silver Age.

    I have a theory that the Pokémon world and the Mother world are one in the same. I won't go into spoilers for Mother 3, but think of Black and White's story of the dragon and the twins. Also, chimeras are kind of like Pokémon.

    Werster is without a doubt the Pokémon Master.

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    Quote Originally Posted by marioguy View Post
    I would murder her.
    But this isn't any better than cheating.

    I also hate when people say they made a "mistake" by cheating. Cheating is not a mistake.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jb View Post
    But this isn't any better than cheating.

    I also hate when people say they made a "mistake" by cheating. Cheating is not a mistake.
    Killing someone who cheated on you isn't worse than adultery.

    I agree that it usually isn't a mistake. "But babe, I only accidentally had sex with her. I tripped."
    We can all agree that the second generation was either Pokémon's Golden Age or its Silver Age.

    I have a theory that the Pokémon world and the Mother world are one in the same. I won't go into spoilers for Mother 3, but think of Black and White's story of the dragon and the twins. Also, chimeras are kind of like Pokémon.

    Werster is without a doubt the Pokémon Master.

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