I detest people who cheat.
If they really want another boy-/girlfriend they should just break up with their main one.
Having 2 boy-/girlfriends just isn't right.
I agree that it isn't the best solution, but it may feel like the only option for some people if they're being emotionally or physically abused (to whatever degree). They may have no one to talk to, or struggle to talk to the people that they do have. They may have tried to break it off, but were pressured into staying. Do you think then the blame lies on the cheater, the abuser or are both at fault?
I don't think all situations are simply black and white - there are occasions where more then just the fact they cheated has to be taken into account.
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Originally Posted by Ellie
I would say both would receive blame.
Although I don't think it's necessarily looking at it as black and white if I say cheating is never acceptable. There's a difference between saying it's understandable and then saying it's acceptable.
There are very few real life situations I can picture that would make it acceptable (like the scenario you described), but more than half the time, it's really the individual cheater to actually decide to cheat.
You can call me biased if you want (as I've experienced it first-hand), but on the topic of cheating as a single thing, it's wrong. Stealing is wrong by itself, but if a guy is robbing a church to save his son from cancer, am I going to change my viewpoint on that.. in any significant way?
I guess... I really wouldn't.
So yes, cheating on that kind of person is obviously a stupid move, because cheating is never a smart move to begin with. But unfortunately, often getting help isn't an option, either.
Committed relationships are just that when both partners stop all "extra curricular activities" and devote their efforts to teh one relationship. If one partner is "less committed" then the relationship will probably fail fail so the relationship isn't' a committed relationship. Feeling of being trapped is not a committed relationship because if you feel trapped you don't have a committed heart.
The Cheater is always in the wrong. Breaking trust is never the moral high ground.
Here's another question that has to do with cheating. Do you think one partner has the right to violate the others privacy to "catch" him or her cheating?
My answer is: hell no. There's alot of spy cams and even computer programs where you can crack passwords and bank account passwords. You can even listen to phone conversations. No one has a right to violate someone else's privacy (well unless if your a parent and you know.... child) and this is no exception.
Ok my best friends mom was cheated on.
The guy she remarried was cheated on as well.
so now both his parents have been cheated on.
idk what the point of this is but i'll put it out there.
In my English Class, we are finishing up the Scarlet Letter, which I feel should be mentioned.
The character Hester Prynn cheats on her Husband, who forced a marriage. She didn't love him, and what he did (arranging the marriage) was pretty cruel. She had an affair with the minister, and in turn had a baby. The point made by Nathaniel Hawthorne is, was this 'adulterous scandal' justified?
I feel like it was. I felt like, since he had committed a 'sin', she had every right to give in to her pressure. She showed her husband, and he deserved it. I don't know, sometimes, it feels like people deserve it?
I don't think it was justified. I mean yeah back in the day, divorce wasn't really an option and there were people who were forced to marry but speaking in a modern sense, there's really no excuse to cheat.
Spying is pretty much a gamble in that respect.
All in all, I find cheating to be a very childish thing, not because of the cheating itself but because it can be easily avoided. Not happy with the girl/guy you're with now?
Just. Come. OUT with it. Dear lord people make it such an issue which is why i find it so childish. Ive even heard arguments that breaking up makes the person wanting to break up an ***hole but that just pants on head retarded. It makes you more of an ***hole to keep it going when there is no love in the relationship, BECAUSE THATS WHAT ITS FOR. Its not a contract like some people make it out to be, its a damn commitment you make to some one you love. If the love is not there, theres no longer a point to dragging out the inevitable.
That and NTR is a *****. No one wants to be NTR'd
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Anyone who is controlling and willing to invade their partner's privacy has issues, imo.
This isn't a popular theme anymore, though it is interesting to know that it lives on through this netorare. (I'm not really sure how the concept itself is any more NSFW than the rest of the conversation, though.)
It's also worth considering that this is also a fetish, and that there are people who are aroused by the idea of their significant other cheating on them. That said, in my opinion it doesn't sound like actual cheating if it's consensual and both partners agree on doing it. The cuckold can still feel humiliated (which is part of the excitement for many), but if they agreed to have their significant other have sex with another person, the significant other isn't, by definition, cheating. :P
That's how I see it, anyway. Food for thought.
There are even commercials for cheating on your partner these days. People usually don't like to be betrayed, so don't cheat if you don't want to be cheated on yourself. My former girlfriend cheated on me and confessed. She wasn't drunk, she was asked if she had a boyfriend three times and she still agreed. From that moment on i decided that i would never cheat on any girl i would date.
But yeah, even in modern times, I've seen people, girls in particular, being overly controlling on who their partners could hang out with and be friends with. I mean, why should your partner stop being friends with a certain person because *YOU* don't like them?