Describing women as "they" is classic othering behavior designed to reduce sympathy. It accomplishes a dual task; it makes a monolithic group out of a diverse set of individuals that represents one-half(!) of the human population, and it sets the speaker apart from that group.
Getting over peer abuse is hard, but it's important not to let it cloud your judgement. Women are people. There is no "they." "They" are half the population. "They" don't get away with anything. SOME women, elevated to highly visible status by the media and by the people you apparently associate with, "get away with" things. So do some men. Some men "get away with" atrocities, often committed against women. Trust me, I know. But that doesn't mean that men are a "they." They are fifty percent of the population. When you engage in homogenizing and othering a group, you open them up to abuse by people who no longer view them as human.
When you other women, you other yourself. You open yourself up to abuse. And a lot of people are going to tell you differently. They're going to use "you're not like other girls" as a compliment. They're going to "they" women. They're going to "women all [blank]." They're going to "women never [blank]." But YOU are a woman. And you're not like other women. And you're not like other men, either. You are a human being. You are your own human being. When you group and dismiss women, you are playing to the prejudices of those who hate you simply for how you were born.
Whether you think you deserve better than that or not, you do. And maybe if you start pretending to feel that way, you actually will someday.
ETA: Pesky Persian, I believe Gothitelle K has me on her block list. Do you mind quoting the things I've said to her? They're a bit important.